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Today Influencing as a skill is becoming more and
more important and critical. Where earlier people or departments would work in
Silos and were more hierarchical; today that has changed to a lot of cross
functional dependence and flatter structures where authority or position
doesn't always get the desired response from people .
The ability to effectively Influence is needed in many
scenarios:
- Presenting a new idea , initiative or plan in a conference or board room
- Discussing and persuading others during a meeting
- Convincing peers
- Convincing the supervisor for something new
- Gaining commitment and ownership from reporters
Influence
doesn't happen in vacuum, many people complain that nobody in their group
listens or pays heed to what they are saying.
Many of us generally face the same problem time and over again.
How many
of us can relate to a time when we were trying to share a view in a group,
repeatedly trying to speak, starting a few words... and somebody else kept
butting in and acting as if you were, either not there or not saying anything
of consequence.
Often when that happens we react in one of 2 ways:
- By keeping quiet and feeling that nobody cares about what we have to say. This leads us to reduce contribution in discussions and avoid presentations or just always believing the "boss is always right"
- By getting angry, raising our voices and demanding to be heard. Leading to conflict with our peers, getting into arguments with managers or becoming an autocratic or dictatorial leader.
What
upsets us even more is that within the group there will be some who will be
given the attention of all, without them having to make much of an effort to be
heard. In fact, people will look to that person for a view, even when he/she
doesn't want to share one.
So what is it that makes this person an influencer without even trying that
hard?
How do I get people to sit-up and pay attention when I
speak?
Like many
others I used to be one in the crowd who faced just the same issues. Below are
some things that worked for me and each one of us can do to build a personality
that gets people to sit up listen!!
The important thing to remember is that my credibility and trust
within the group is the first thing people subconsciously refer to when I
speak. Thus, if I have built an image of being trustworthy, reliable and
dependable then de facto my views suggestions and ideas are looked at in the
same way.
So what affects my credibility and makes me trustworthy, reliable and dependable?
So what affects my credibility and makes me trustworthy, reliable and dependable?
- During day to day interactions do I give thought before speaking
- Do I follow through and fulfill my commitments
- Can people depend on me
- Grab opportunities
Building an influential personality is more than just credibility,
it is also about grabbing opportunities that come up and showing ones influence
on situations and events around. Very often we wait for opportunities to come
to us and many valuable opportunities pass us by. It is critical to keep our
eyes and ears open for areas, situations and events where we can influence the
outcome and thus make others aware of us and what we can do.
It could be an opportunity to deliver a presentation, arrange an
event, organise and chair a meeting or an open forum to share your idea or view
points. The challenge is many of us shy away from such opportunities and then
wonder "why people don't sit up and listen
to us"
- Take responsibility & ownership
At times when I need to work with others, In situations when someone
else has grabbed the opportunity or stepped up; the ownership or responsibility
I take for a team goal reflects on my character and connect with the bigger
picture. How hard I work to support others, how involved I get even if someone
else might get the credit, shows others that I care more for the team goal and
bigger picture than just my own interests. That will get me an element of
respect from the group that automatically translates into an ability to
influence the group more easily where & when required.
- Step up
Often there are situations where no one is willing to "bell the
cat". This is an ideal situation for a person to Step up and take the initiative on something. It is a chance to
step into the spotlight and shine. Of course there are risks involved, there
will always be questions that we ask ourselves.
What if it fails? What if things don't go according to plan? What if
I make a fool of myself in the bargain?
The point is ....Those who have the courage to Step up and work out ways to give it their
best shot will always be looked up to. Sometimes they will succeed and at other
times fail. However, people will always look up to them for the courage they
showed when others were unwilling.
So when are you
going to STEP UP!!